also Why is there so much hatred for guys aged 18 dating girls 14-15 if there not having sex?
Its not against law if theres no sex so what reasons are there for the hatred on here?
Im dating her cos i love her and love spending time with her.
its really shallow to think relationships are just about sex.
not all 18 year olds want to have sex.Whys everyone so narrow minded.
thankyou jessm there are nice people out there.
cheers for all the mature answers that arent hatred fueled glad that not everyones narrow minded.
its not bs she is mature and we have alot of fun together
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March 19th, 2010 at 1:20 am
I’m actually in the same position. I’m 15 and he’s 18. It may lead to something sexual. You can’t predict the future. But I know how you feel. Your not a creep! I wasn’t looking for an older bf and he wasn’t looking for a younger gf. We just connected. I am mature for my age, but I know there are differences between 18 yr-old girls and 15 yr-old ones. Just, if your looking to have a future with her, let alone a good relationship. Then be patient. If it’ll work then wait for the sexual stuff for later in her life(assuming with you). Right now work on an emotional connection. It will be worth the wait.
March 19th, 2010 at 1:20 am
No sex= what the hell are you even dating for?
March 19th, 2010 at 1:20 am
because why can’t they get girls their own age???
March 19th, 2010 at 1:20 am
i think its so disgusting. when i was 15/16 i had a guy in my life who was like 22. looking back, im absolutely horrified. if i saw him today, id puke. its like, how can an adult male be attracted to a girl whos not even fully grown. theres just some type of mental instability there.
March 19th, 2010 at 1:20 am
I gotta agree with the GangstaG on this one.
March 19th, 2010 at 1:20 am
Because the maturity difference
March 19th, 2010 at 1:20 am
Well, most 18 year old guys want to have sex, so really it seems that dating a 14 – 15 year old is only setting up for trouble.
And what could an 18 year old guy have in common with such a young teen? Makes me wonder what’s up with that 18 year old guy can’t get with a decent girl his own age, and has to prey on the younger (and much more naive) girls.
EDIT* You haven’t said anything about the difference in maturity…a very valid point. Don’t give me the "she’s mature for her age" BS.
March 19th, 2010 at 1:20 am
most people disapprove because they doubt there is any reason other than sex that an 18 year old would want to go with a 14 year old.
March 19th, 2010 at 1:20 am
Paedophillia (cough)
March 19th, 2010 at 1:20 am
well it is kind of ILLEGAL
March 19th, 2010 at 1:20 am
Depends who the parents are…
When I was 17 I dated a 25 year old. They weren’t too stricked about it but who cares what other people think of the relationship. As long as you guys are happy that’s all that matters.
March 19th, 2010 at 1:20 am
idk buh i’d like to noe dat because im datin a 19yr old nd i really like him nd we barly c each other in (very sad lol)
nd wer so0o0o not havin sex
he’s already told me he lovesz me nd we havent done a thing lol
idk im on ur side
March 19th, 2010 at 1:20 am
it IS against the law. plaus, maturity, whether you want to admit it or not, is different. younger girls dont really understand what they’re getting into. trust me, i was there.
March 19th, 2010 at 1:20 am
It’s not hatred dude. When you are 18 and dating anybody it’s going to lead to sex. Doesn’t matter what’s happening right now. It’s going to happen.
March 19th, 2010 at 1:20 am
I DONT THINK ITS WRONG
if u like her and she likes u and therees no u know what and all u guys are doing is dating then theres no problem
March 19th, 2010 at 1:20 am
well probably because they feel that they are unexperienced and still children and may rush into something stupid i mean think about it when you were that age if someone older than you wanted to have sex wouldn’t you agree.
March 19th, 2010 at 1:20 am
They probs asume that your thinking about sex like most 18 year olds. I don’t see a problem with it. Please answer – http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20080707134810AA2r5Bh&pa=FYd1D2bwHTHzJb9iEuk9SOmnbjQK7btownE5HKN5mscz2A–&paid=asked&msgr_status= "should I ask her out even though I know she dosn’t fancy me?"
March 19th, 2010 at 1:20 am
Teens aren’t old/mature enough to be dating one-on-one prior to age 16 anyway (even w/o having sex). Yeah, it’s disturbing when an 18 yr old legal adult (male or female) wants to become involved with a 14 or 15 yr old child. The maturity levels should be quite different, and where they are in life…the 18 yr old is either at the end of high school or out of it, the teen just beginning it.
Save the larger age gap dating for when both parties are at least 18…then, it’s not an issue (even though maturity may still not match, everyone is considered an adult).
March 19th, 2010 at 1:20 am
well where i live a person under the age of 18 and over the age of 14 can have sex with someone younger than 5 years .. so basically: 18-14, 19-15, 16-20 etc..
for the record i am 18 and my girfriend is 14, our familys and friends have no problem with it what so ever.. but i remember when i was in grade 9, ive changed alot since then.. shes really mature for her age, but she will still change.. shes still developing mentally and physically.. but we have made things work and i have never been happier..
i am glad i didnt let the 4 years get in the way, otherwise i would be alot less happy!
March 19th, 2010 at 1:20 am
Dude, when I moved to Alabama, I met a girl at the local college I was taking a night course at, ended up hitting it off, she was 17 I was 31. Dude talk about feeling guilty, thank God there isn’t a law against it and her parents actually liked me a lot. I thought that was weird.
March 19th, 2010 at 1:20 am
To be honest those people mostly feel that they are having sex. To me age is nothing but a number. It’s just the question in mostly everyones mind " What can he get from her?" and " What can she get from him?". Many people who get passed the age issue jump right to that question.
March 19th, 2010 at 1:20 am
And just what is it about the 14-year-old girl that you find attractive at age 18?
Their bodies are only just beginning to bloom into womanhood. Is that what turns you on? That 14-yr-old body shape lasts only one year! She won’t look like that at 25, guaranteed. You might not like how things turn out.
Their ideas of the world are only 2 years removed from a 12-year-old’s. Does that naivety attract you? Like you can pretend to have the experience of her father without all the icky list of chores and moral expectations her father would hold? Or maybe she craves more time with her father but he’s busy working 2 jobs, so she latches onto you.
Do you have hillbilly heritage? It’s common in some places of the world for 18-yr-old men to take a 14-yr-old bride. Is that common in the holler where you live?
Maybe you are a city guy who wants to turn her on to drugs. Get her hooked so she’s dependent on you. Drugs are pervasive in our society. What drugs do you take? Maybe you get her strung out and you put her on the streets with all the other women who support you. That’s not an uncommon fate for runaways.
Do you have a job? If not, go get one. Or two!. Or, join the army. Once you have some perspective on the ADULT world, you’ll realize how inappropriate this relationship is.
March 19th, 2010 at 1:20 am
a 14-15 year old girl does not need to be in a physical relationship of any kind, even if there is no "sex." They shouldn’t even be dating till 16! Besides, an 18 year old is an adult, and a 14 year old is a child. The emotional and intellectual maturity levels are completely different. Why would an 18 year old want a romantic relationship with a child? It’s just creepy. That said, for a younger girl to have a crush on an older guy is very normal, it just shouldn’t progress to a real relationship.
March 19th, 2010 at 1:20 am
I have no idea. My bf is 18 and im 15 (ill be 16 in dec) and some ppl are really upset by it but most dont seem to care. Its not like youre 40 and shes 19 (thats def weird lol). A few years here or there shouldnt matter. Try to ignore them because the only opinion that truly matters is yours and hers. No one else can tell you how you to feel about each other.
March 19th, 2010 at 1:20 am
It isn’t normal behavior for a guy around 18 wanting to hang around a 14 year old girl. That’s why we make laws to keep the pedophiles of the world responsible for their actions. That is also why Smith and Wesson sell guns. It’s pretty simple, Keep it in your pants or find a girl your own age.
March 19th, 2010 at 1:20 am
I say go for it if you two feel that you’re right for each other then at least you can try. I would say there is a maturaty differance between 14 and 18 and thats where the hate stems from the idea that the older person is taking advantage somhow of the younger person. I’ve seen it work both ways just like real relationships some people love each other and some lie to themselves.
March 19th, 2010 at 1:20 am
The reason is that young teenage girls are naive and fall in love very easily. The only reason a 18 year old would want to date a girl so much younger is for sex.
I would not never be ok with my 14 or 15 year old daughter dating someone 3 or 4 years older.
When both parties are adults and of consensual age, then you can have several years age difference.
March 19th, 2010 at 1:20 am
I gotta agree w/ Sebby and True Love.
And honestly at 18, sex is on the brain of most males that age majority of the time when in the presence of a female, so just b/c you’re not doing it you are thinking it, and OBVIOUSLY you’re not just dating her for her mind and personality alone there has to be some level of physical attraction which is honestly borrowing trouble w/ that much of an age gap.
I would NOT tolerate my daughter dating someone 18 when she is 14. I would wonder their intentions and why they did NOT date someone their own age.
I think it’s wrong…I mean would you date your little sister? And how would you feel if it were your little sister or your little niece or your little cousin dating a guy w/ that age gap?
March 19th, 2010 at 1:20 am
A 3 year age difference is ideal!
Just be mature enough to respect her and stay out of trouble!
Good luck!
March 19th, 2010 at 1:20 am
there is nothin wrong withdating someone 3or 4 years older . aslong is there is no sexual action between them. i personaly like dating someone older than me i have been datin a 19 yr for 3moonths and we couldnt be happier sex isnt everything in a relationship.
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